ok, I've figured out to restore the menu (file, edit, view, etc) press Alt. From there click on view and add the tool bar. Now I need to know how to make it stay, when I open a new window, have to do it all over again.

Firefox 3.6+ versions have a feature to allow the user to hide the Menu bar.

Hit the Alt key to temporarily show the Menu bar, then open View > Toolbars and select Menu bar, so it has a check-mark.
The F10 can also be used on most PC's to temporarily reveal the Menu bar.

https://support.mozilla.com/en-US/kb/Menu+bar+is+missing

Try to close and reopen Firefox after you have made the toolbars visible to make Firefox save that setting.

If you do not see the toolbars after restarting Firefox then see:

• http://kb.mozillazine.org/Corrupt_localstore.rdf